Greg King

Five Stones

The Average Person Lies Three Times per Ten Minutes of Conversation

istock_000000446279small1At least that is what an expert on a new Fox Tv Show called “Lie to Me “says. This show is based off of the studies of psychologist Paul Ekman who is the author of Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage and is also a renowned expert in emotions research and nonverbal communication.

The truth is  lying has become one of those acceptable sins of the day. Feel free to lie as long as it really doesn’t hurt someone is how most people live. However God views what comes out of our mouths very seriously. Take a look at what the writer says in Proverbs:

God can’t stomach liars; he loves the company of those who keep their word.  Prov. 12:22

It’s only human to want to make a buck, but it’s better to be poor than a liar. Prov. 19:22

I have to ask do you think most people really lie three times in a ten minute conversation. I know for us preachers if that includes exaggeration then we are in big trouble. People most likely exaggerate all the time but who flat out lies this often? So do you agree or disagree? Do you lie in almost every conversation you have? I don’t think I do, but now I’m going to be doing a little personal research over the holiday break to see where I land. I know my weakness is to exaggerate so I will be trying to see how bad that has gotten in my normal conversations. So let’s see how many Pinocchio’s are out there.


December 20, 2008 - Posted by | Life


  1. I can neither confirm nor denie that allegation.

    Comment by David | December 20, 2008 | Reply

  2. How many times has someone asked you “how are you?” and you have replied “fine thank you, and you?” when the truth is that you were feeling lonely, or depressed, or angry? We frequently lie in this society to avoid exposing or burdening others with our weaknesses and emotions.

    Comment by David | December 28, 2008 | Reply

  3. There are times when I’ve noticed that a person can be talking to you and get so wrapped up in hype that they don’t even notice that you are still 5 conversations behind them. So if they are losing track of where you are at with it then I’m sure they are losing track of themselves or getting away with themselves. I think that sometimes the stories that people tell can be so discombobulated that they are legitimately getting lost in the details. It then becomes easy to get the facts a bit twisted. In this case language just gets in the way which can make it look like they are lieing. In the case where a person might be going through something and are trying to talk through the pros and cons that’s different. Sometimes I do think it’s kinda normal to get on the soap box with people who you’ve known for years on end but with respect to everyday conversation or small talk with people who you don’t know? I think the context matters here and the character of the person who is talking. Is exaggerating the same thing as lieing? I do believe this quote for the “average” person? oh hell yes.

    Comment by tab | March 15, 2009 | Reply

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